tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post8842784238119908173..comments2023-05-15T15:44:16.566+01:00Comments on dolce far niente: a different dynamicI, Like The Viewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00423569600315825506noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-24053144520864039412010-03-14T19:41:19.369+00:002010-03-14T19:41:19.369+00:00mig he was. . . my overall sense is that I just ne...<b>mig</b> he was. . . my overall sense is that I just need to get myself sorted out, only I have no oooomph at the moment (and I'm wondering why)<br /><br />X<br /><br /><b>Mel</b> I think it becomes part of you, doesn't it, the grief - something that you can't shake off but something that make you you<br /><br /><br />and weird how it's a feeling I feel now that's replaced other things I used to feel that I don't anymore - if only I'd understood all those years ago the things you wrote about feelings<br /><br />I kind of do now<br /><br />XI, Like The Viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00423569600315825506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-16526475635623084502010-03-12T20:03:08.586+00:002010-03-12T20:03:08.586+00:00It's a hard time of year for many people. (pe...It's a hard time of year for many people. (perhaps most people). A good time for an occasional hibernation and an occasional luxury. And as Z says, a bit of growing(of plants)can be healing. <br />No harm in going to see the Head Doctor either - to discuss meds and to ask if perhaps a little extra help is available at this time of year when you feels as if you've been fighting your way through the cold and damp for ever. I seem to recall that the HD was a reasonably good egg?mighttp://letouttoplay.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-37585148887864411662010-03-12T02:42:31.357+00:002010-03-12T02:42:31.357+00:00Oh, Z said it all so nicely.....
I don't see ...Oh, Z said it all so nicely.....<br /><br />I don't see the morning's nap as a 'waste' of anything--more of a healing thing. Good grief, this is a 'first'? Well, I say 'good for you!...'bout time!'.<br /><br />And like Z, I'd echo that grief doesn't seem to exit my life. 'Stuff' happens and some of the feelings of loss resurface....like Mothering Day sparking that motherless upbringing I had, yaknow? It's there, it's not all encompassing and it doesn't debilitate me today. That's growth and healing for ya--well, it is for me.<br /><br />(((((((((((( ILTV ))))))))))))<br /><br />Listen to Z--she said it so well.<br />And spring is coming. Flower pots are already beckoning to me!Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14408403855260279799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-85898762511784532042010-03-11T19:13:01.187+00:002010-03-11T19:13:01.187+00:00Z you always know exactly what to say
so thank yo...<b>Z</b> you always know exactly what to say<br /><br />so thank you<br /><br />I rarely have days, or even hours of depression any more - things are looking up<br /><br />I've been thinking of window boxes and freshening up the plants in the courtyard - will stop thinking and start taking action<br /><br />(and I tried for it not to all come across as grumbling. . . but in almost Mid-March, it's getting tricky!)<br /><br /><b>Dave</b> if we lived closer, I'd offer to do your housework in exchange for you working on my roof garden<br /><br />(-:<br /><br /><b>shot</b> "be" is brilliant (have you read Tuesdays With Morrie yet?)<br /><br />thank you<br /><br /><b>ziGGz</b> I'll keep you posted honeyI, Like The Viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00423569600315825506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-53649290992928479012010-03-11T18:52:54.049+00:002010-03-11T18:52:54.049+00:00I don't think it was a morning wasted at all. ...I don't think it was a morning wasted at all. But I think that a sound sleep is very healing.<br /><br />And grief never really goes away, you cope with it better and time dulls the effects and you find other things to enjoy and fill your life. But it can still hit you and you have to be very kind to yourself when it does. You can still start to feel better though, and I think that Dave's right - growing things is very healing, even if you can't put all the hard work into it that he does. An allotment is a good idea, but only if you can manage the work, and there may be a waiting list anyway, but a window box or some pots could be a start.<br /><br />Do remember that it's normal and natural to feel miserable, dull and lethargic at the end of winter - there's a lot of grumbling going on about it at present, including from me. Possibly, especially from me.<br /><br />I think that one sign of recovery, by the way, is when one unfeeling or snappy word no longer gives you several days of depression.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-9755900709439651432010-03-11T17:28:49.008+00:002010-03-11T17:28:49.008+00:00PWE is strong in me. I'm busy all the time, b...PWE is strong in me. I'm busy all the time, but for the first time ever with no paid employment to occupy me I'm busy doing (generally) things I want to do (clearly I don't want to do housework).<br /><br />It was very odd when I was ill being told the only treatment was to rest, and so being forced to sit around for 3 months. I feel much better since I've been digging in the garden this last week.<br /><br />Could you get an allotment? They must have some, even in London town.<br /><br />Sorry, I'm not really doing much here other than fill in blank spaces.<br /><br />Still, that's true of life itself, isn't it?Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-12768995102409686622010-03-11T17:07:41.992+00:002010-03-11T17:07:41.992+00:00Would you kindly define 'waste' as it rela...Would you kindly define 'waste' as it relates to this matter? It seems purely a matter of personal perspective and choice. "Filling time" because it's there seem silly to me, but that's me.<br /><br />And you can tell when you're feeling better by... um... noting that you feel better. <br /><br />Similarly, I read something once where someone asked of someone smart or clever (like B.Franklin or Socrates or someone like that) that went a bit like: "How can I be virtuous?" and the smart guy said, "<b>BE virtuous.</b>"Rimshothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704736086427919860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23123441341079609.post-63250305775273934512010-03-11T16:39:07.798+00:002010-03-11T16:39:07.798+00:00I have no idea, please tell me when you find out! ...I have no idea, please tell me when you find out! :)Zighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325808421083028026noreply@blogger.com